The CANCER Child
Today is a peculiar day, unlike any other,
and just yesterday everything was normal and routine.
Inscribe these words into your memory, so that you may not be taken aback each day of your existence: your Cancer baby will undergo mood swings as frequently as you change their diaper. It's a strange and unfamiliar world for the lunar infant. They will be captivated by delightful tastes and drinks, and they will adore all the vibrant images that pass before their perceptive eyes, leaving an indelible mark on their memory. Every experience will remain etched within them. When they grow old and gray, your Cancerian child will recall every feeling and emotion, capable of reproducing them with remarkable precision.
I once knew a dear Cancerian woman who was born in Europe. Even when she fell ill, she would sing every word of the Russian lullabies she had heard as a child, despite having immigrated to America nearly half a century ago. Most of us would consider ourselves fortunate if we could remember the tune or lyrics to "Rock-a-bye Baby."
From dawn till dusk, the active mind of a Cancerian child will absorb and retain everything they observe and hear.
For worldly adults, it's challenging to keep up with them as they ascend their Moon mountain of dreams or wade through the streams of their radiant imagination. Their emotions are vivid, diverse, and vibrant, yet despite it all, they may feel lonely.
Playing with lunar babies can be an absolute joy. They are amusing little creatures with comical expressions and eyes that seem to convey messages on their own. Their features contort with tears, twist with grimaces, or widen with smiles. Observing their elastic expressions is fascinating, but you may often wish you could predict when they'll burst into giggles or become lost in the dreamy gaze they adopt when listening to the peculiar music that every Moon child hears.
These children have more emotional needs compared to Pisces boys and girls. More than any other children, Cancerians are profoundly influenced by their early home environment. From infancy through their teenage years, young crabs rely heavily on the reactions of their parents, siblings, and relatives. Your lunar child may be too shy to express their true inner desires, but secretly, they long to be nurtured, embraced, and adored. Rejection can crush them if they don't receive attention and approval from their family and friends. I recall a conversation I had with a close friend who was born in July. Late one night, in her kitchen (where else?), we were discussing her childhood.
She confided in me, saying, "When I was a little girl in elementary school, my parents gave me ten or fifteen cents per week to spend. But I never spent it. I saved it, so I could offer a prize."
"For what?" I asked her.
A wistful expression crossed her wonderfully expressive face. "Well, I used to offer fifty cents at the end of each month to the friend who treated me the nicest."
Initially, I found it amusing and was about to remind her of all the candy and treats she missed by giving away her entire allowance for kind treatment. However, something in her eyes made me change my mind.
While your tender Cancerian child may briefly rebel without a cause during adolescence, in their formative years, they are generally easy to manage and discipline. Their inner world is profoundly real to them, and they can happily engage in solitary play for hours on end. They may even have an imaginary playmate named Boris or Betty, who assists them in making mud pies, planting imaginary flowers, or playing cowboy and Indian. These make-believe companions are always well-behaved and polite. They willingly let the Cancer youngster emerge victorious and fulfill their desire to be a gentle leader without protest. Sometimes these imaginary playmates may disappear for weeks at a time, but they always return whenever a real-life neighborhood friend or schoolmate wounds the little lunar feelings or becomes too domineering. Despite their docile and quiet nature, Cancer is a cardinal Sun sign associated with leadership. Behind their tender emotions and gentle demeanor lies a strong inclination for independent thinking and individualism.
If your child follows the typical July pattern, they'll know how to get their way and may be slightly spoiled around the edges. It's the squeaky hinge that receives the most oil. Although they may not exactly squeak, they can become excessively tearful when ignored or treated harshly. Speaking of tears! A Moon child can cry rivers, transforming a room into a watery landscape. It's as if someone left the kitchen faucets running. If all that moisture fails to elicit the tender sympathy necessary for their healthy emotional development, the little Cancerian boy or girl will grow into a dry-eyed adult with an emotionally barren heart, finding it difficult to give or receive love easily. They may seek solitude, form very few warm friendships, and eventually become reclusive in their old age.
When such a sensitive little crab is under your care, it is crucial to laugh and cry with them, and to assuage their fears. They possess a multitude of fears. Your lunar child may fear sleeping in the dark without a gentle night light, fire and matches, fast cars and loud noises. They can fear strangers, large animals, bright lights, unfamiliar food, lightning, and thunder.
Many young loony-birds experience melancholy when it rains. A spring or autumn shower can stir peculiar emotions within them. It can spur them to write a poem, paint a picture, or create music. At other times, it may prompt them to hide their frightened little heads beneath the covers, leaving their trembling lower half visibly exposed.
These children require great emotional empathy to nurture their refined, affectionate, artistic, and creative qualities. If such empathy is wholeheartedly provided during their formative years, it will aid in their development into patient, generous, quietly confident, and open-hearted adults. Without attentive understanding, their natural compassion and gentleness may become distorted, manifesting as self-pity and bitter, silent brooding. If fear is not properly addressed early on, it can transform into irrational prejudice and hatred. Little crabs who have had their emotional growth stunted sometimes become suspicious snappers, often seeking revenge and even contemplating suicide. At best, these moody and unhappy individuals lead sad, uneventful lives unless they make a dramatic decision to immerse themselves in building a financial empire or developing a latent talent. Either path can mercifully replace the love and affection denied to the gentle lunar heart during its most vulnerable stages?childhood.
It cannot be emphasized enough that these sensitive children can imagine hurts or slights and invent a sense of rejection that was never there. Special care must be taken to convince them that they are good, intelligent, attractive, and deeply loved. Many parents sense this, which is why numerous little crabs are pampered so much at home that they experience quite a shock as adults when they realize that the world views their personal desires with indifference. It's no wonder that so many Cancerians fondly remember their mothers and practically create a shrine in their honor as they grow older. No one else will ever care quite as much. The major question regarding a Moon child is always whether to be overly strict and warp their nature or overly permissive and spoil them. Finding the middle ground is never easy, and it can keep you awake at night. The keyword is relaxation. Love usually finds a way. The best approach is a good old-fashioned spanking when needed, coupled with an abundance of hugs, kisses, and physical displays of affection at all other times.
Teachers often find that Cancerian boys and girls excel in history. They seldom forget dates or events. That's because, thanks to their mirror-like sensitivity, they can read about something that transpired years ago and almost believe they were present themselves. If Paul Revere, Thomas Jefferson, or Abraham Lincoln were to return and recount their stories, they probably wouldn't be able to do so with any more vividness than the typical young Cancerian, who discusses the events of the distant past with an abundance of color. It's as if they were present at the Battle of Lexington, the signing of the Declaration of Independence, and the shot fired at Fort Sumter. There's hardly a detail their fertile imagination cannot conjure. It's easy to understand why many of these sensitive boys and girls pursue careers in acting, become creative photographers, or embark on distinguished paths in music or art. Educators may occasionally complain about stubbornness or daydreaming, but these shortcomings rarely become pronounced enough to cause significant trouble. There may be some instances of exaggeration. A boy may describe an ordeal of being attacked in the woods by a dangerous bear to explain a few scratches resulting from a fall from his own front porch. A girl may recount a sorrowful tale of being locked out without supper by cruel parents after a mild argument with her family. But a few tall tales can be expected when considering the strong mental impressions left by adventure stories on their lunar imagination. When true heartache strikes, rather than fictional tragedy, the typical Cancerian child will remain silent and decline to discuss it. There's an old Chinese proverb that says, "He who is genuinely hurt?does not speak."
Like Libran children, happy Cancerians can drive up the family grocery bill to staggering proportions, and enduring the nickname "Fatty" is common. If they exhibit brooding or nervousness, they may be called "Skinny." It's best to avoid nicknames with Moon children altogether. They should never be subjected to teasing.
Most young crabs eagerly anticipate earning money and will scour the neighborhood for odd jobs. Your Cancer child will start early, mowing lawns, sweeping leaves, and babysitting. They'll return bottles for refunds, help with hanging laundry, assist the trash collectors, sell lemonade by the roadside, or engage in any other activity that fills their pockets with jingling coins. The pennies, nickels, dimes, quarters, and eventually dollars they earn will be meticulously accounted for, with a good portion of their earnings being saved. After a while, they may even contribute to their own spending money earlier than other children, taking pride in their independence. You'll find them light on your wallet in many ways. These children often work their way through college. Boys will develop a healthy curiosity about the business world, while girls will demonstrate proficiency in financial matters. However, they'll also spend a significant amount of time playing with their dolls and baking brownies, honing their skills for their future careers as nurturing mothers.
The Cancer child will keep you entertained with their jokes and infectious laughter. They can contort their faces into funny expressions that resemble Halloween masks, and they find humor in every aspect of the human parade as it passes by. If possible, provide them with a small patch of land they can call their own, where they can plant with their green thumb and witness the growth of their endeavors. They'll display tender concern for ill relatives, financial emergencies within the family, and the struggles of their friends and neighbors. Lunar children adore books about heroic individuals who overcame hardships to accomplish great deeds, and they'll exhibit exceptional tenderness and empathy towards animals. However, when they feel mistreated themselves, they may inadvertently pass on the cruelty, reflecting it onto others smaller than themselves in a "kick the cat" fashion. Young crabs can live up to their name, displaying moments of crabbiness, but such moods seldom endure for more than a few hours before they're replaced by an affectionate and lovable grin.
As you switch off the lights at bedtime, you may ponder, like all parents do, a not-too-distant future when the little head that repeatedly pops up "for one more drink of water" will be absent. The house will be quiet and devoid of their alternating tears and laughter after the funny and imaginative little crab ventures off to create their own family. Will they forget? Not if they were born in late June or July. Even if years pass and they sail across distant seas, they'll always be connected to their home. Keep their bean bag?the one they gave you on that Saturday afternoon you quarreled?on their dresser. And leave her rag doll in its place on the window seat. Your Moon child will return home time and time again throughout the many tomorrows to relive old memories and reconnect with the past. Regardless of how many miles separate them from yesterday, they will always find solace in the familiarity of home. Keep the cookie jar filled.
The GEMINI Child
"Will you walk a little faster?" said a whiting to a snail, "There's a porpoise close behind us, and he's treading on my tail."
If the stork recently delivered a Gemini bundle of joy to your doorstep, prepare yourself for a whirlwind of activity and keep your mind sharp. The next fifteen to twenty years will require your agility, and it's best to start now while your little Mercury-born darling is still contained in the crib. Soon enough, he will be walking and talking, and if you're not ready to keep up, he may slip through your fingers like a wisp of air. Have you ever tried to grasp hold of a wisp of air?
The U.S. Census Bureau has observed that there is a higher incidence of multiple births during the Gemini period than at any other time of the year. So, despite counting ten tiny toes and ten little fingers, which usually indicates one baby, don't be too certain. Your June arrival may be twins—or even more. Perhaps a recalibration of your understanding of mathematics is in order. You will soon witness it when your little one begins to crawl, an action that will occur numerous times throughout the day. You will swear that you just saw him with his hand caught in the pantry's electric mixer, but how can that be? There he is, out on the front porch, contentedly munching on the petunias. How can he be in two places at once? Remember, your child is ruled by Mercury, the Greek god depicted in books with winged feet and a gleaming silver helmet. Place an inverted kitchen pan on your Gemini baby's head for a makeshift helmet, and let your imagination envision the wings sprouting from his chubby, rosy heels.
Do you see the resemblance?
Personally, I've never been fond of those harness-like contraptions sold to mothers for strapping their toddlers when going out shopping. It always brings to mind an image of a woman walking her dog. However, I strongly recommend that the mother of a Gemini child purchases two or three of them, just to be on the safe side.
Your initial thought might be that a sturdy playpen is a necessity for such an active child. I understand your reasoning and sympathize, but I have reservations about playpens and Gemini children. Confining them to a small space can feel like cruelty to a little Geminian whose very nature drives them to seek, explore, and learn. Even more detrimental than the physical limitations is the mental boredom of being trapped on a tiny blue and pink plastic pad while the vast and exciting world beckons just beyond. Periods of confinement should be brief. Excessive restriction and hindrance of a Geminian's freedom can lead to emotional despondency that may not be easily overcome. Remember, they are an air sign, and air must move. Ensure they have a variety of toys and colorful books to peruse when they must be enclosed.
Of course, they won't stay there for long once they've had enough. Mercury governs their vocal cords, and when your little Gemini decides to exercise their vocal talents, you will marvel at how such an enormous amount of noise can emanate from such a small mouth. I bet you'll swiftly remove them from the playpen. Unless you have understanding neighbors with impaired hearing, that is.
Gemini children often make older, more composed individuals nervous with their bird-like movements and rapid gestures. Adults frequently tell the young Geminians to stop fidgeting or to be patient and focus on one task at a time. But for these children, engaging in multiple activities simultaneously is natural. What may be deemed fidgety by stodgy or composed people is, to Gemini, simply their normal state of being. It is wrong to make them feel that they would receive greater approval by attempting to imitate slower, less lively individuals. They should be taught to slow down a bit, perhaps, for their own benefit, but their fundamental nature cannot be changed without frustrating their innate inclinations. Let us try to remember that the lively Gemini child, who annoys the more introverted elders, and the quiet and careful Capricorn child, who irritates their more assertive elders, are merely being true to themselves. Being true to oneself is already challenging enough without others attempting to impose a change in personality.
Embrace your Gemini child for who they are—a friendly, alert, inquisitive, and precocious individual. You cannot transform a firefly into a snail or a snail into a firefly. Nor can a leopard change its spots. While I understand that you are not raising leopards, but rather a bright, interesting, and enthusiastic child, the analogy remains logical. Allow those dual spots in your Gemini youngster to persist. Someday, they may make you proud with a building they design or a literary prize they win, and when they display such dual talents, you'll question why you ever attempted to mold them into a singular form. If they dart around as if they have jumping beans within them, they are simply practicing the rapid reflexes they were born with. Their firefly-like mind can confuse you, but remember that it processes a thousand fancies, sifting through them, deciding which to discard and which to treasure.
Teachers will quickly notice that these boys and girls have no difficulty learning to read. Gemini practically invented words. They relish being called upon to recite and may beam while other students sigh when assigned a writing task. These youngsters take pleasure in communicating with others and sharing their knowledge through spoken or written words. Many of them possess mechanical skills and ambidexterity. It is not uncommon to find a Gemini child who writes with their left hand and draws with their right. They may nibble on their nails, but their fingers are typically slender and flexible, making them skilled at magic tricks and playing musical instruments. Someday, these talents may lead them to become excellent surgeons, dentists, or watchmakers. Gemini hands are sensitive, expressive, and capable.
They often display a remarkable ability to mimic others. The Gemini sense of sharp wit and satire manifests early on. At home or in school, the Gemini child resides in a world where make-believe and reality blend together, where truth is often portrayed as fantasy, and fantasy is disguised as truth. They may give the impression of exaggerating or even lying. However, they cannot help but add a splash of color when recounting an incident, and they often convince themselves that it truly unfolded that way. During such moments, they should be treated gently, as they are stretching and exercising their vivid imagination. Instead of making them feel guilty for having an imagination, they should be encouraged to always speak the truth and write their stories on paper. Once they master this skill, they will be able to discern the distinction between dreams and facts, instead of remaining lost between the two worlds. Gemini children who are not allowed to express themselves and communicate naturally may retreat into a half-world of illusions as a defense mechanism. It is advisable to introduce them to foreign languages early on, as they will likely learn them effortlessly. Similar to Sagittarius children, they will discover the practicality of bilingual abilities as they engage in copious conversations and embark on frequent travels.
When your Gemini child enters their teenage years, they will practically live on the telephone, change romantic partners every week, alter their mind about their future career a hundred times, drive the car slightly too fast, tinker with the engine, and fix the washing machine. The girls will be popular, capable of turning on a shower of tears or a radiant smile like flicking a light switch. These young individuals will keep you on your toes and keep you feeling young.
Once your Gemini child grows up, many people will disapprovingly remark that "they have their fingers in too many pies." You will smile in response, and they may become irritated. However, you will remember a spring day when they were seven. They dipped their fingers in your chocolate pies, their father's shaving cream, the fishbowl, the garbage can, a pot of hot soup, and even an electrical socket. You were furious. Yet, later at twilight, you watched them chasing fireflies in the grass. Eventually, you sighed and audibly asked yourself, "Why must they rush about so? What are they searching for?" They overheard you, and it troubled them. You will never forget the look in their bright, clear eyes when they responded, "Gee, Mommy... I don't know. But don't worry, I'll find it."
The Cancer Child
Children born under Cancer tend to be quiet, introspective, and may shy away from the spotlight. They might struggle in group settings, succumbing to more dominant personalities. Cancerian children's parents should nurture their social development by teaching them how to be assertive and independent. These children are seldom troublesome but may demonstrate moodiness and depression during adolescence.
The Gemini Child
Gemini children exhibit a keen intellect, potentially developing advanced logic and language skills. Encouraging them to learn at their own pace while embracing the joy of learning is crucial. Gemini youngsters need plenty of social interaction and tend to make diverse and interesting friends by their teenage years, adopting a generally positive attitude.
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